PHILOPHOBIA: Why scared of being in love.

What is Philophobia ?

Philophobia is the fear of falling in love. This fear is so intense that they find it difficult, sometimes impossible to form and maintain loving relationships. They will then think it’s Oko Orun/ Aya Orun ( Spiritual husband/wife ) disturbing them.

Causes of Philophobia

Traumatic Childhood Experiences: The emotional trauma gotten from piercing and hurting words that makes one feel worthless,useless and hurt. Which can lead to low self esteem, anxiety and most importantly, PHILOPHOBIA. All the bad trauma can dampen one spirit and soul by making one fearful.

Previous Difficult Relationships: Children who experience their parents argumentative divorce, parental death, abandonment or child abuse may find it difficult to feel love for others. The same holds true for adults who experience cheating, divorce, abuse or abandonment.

Fear of rejection or abandonment: Having a parent leave you as a child can lead to a fear of love. Adults who experience repeat rejections from partners or friend may become afraid to love.

D S E D (Disinhibited Social Engagement Disorder): A child who doesn’t receive attention, love and validation from a parent or another trusted source may grow up fearing love. These children tend to connect better with strangers than people who love them.

Symptoms of Philophobia

• Being unable to have intimate relationships.

• Experiencing extreme anxiety when in a relationship and constantly worry about the relationship ending.

• Feeling afraid of your partner or their emotions.

• Pushing people away or end relationships abruptly.